Swinging in the Suburbs

So to continue from the last entry, my date paid our bill and the two of us were playing a little game of asking questions.  After a few back and forth, he looked at me and asked me how I was feeling.

I still wasn’t sure if I was ready or wanting to fuck him.  First of all, it was already late.  Second, he was cute and super charming and smart, but I didn’t have that feeling of having my heart skip-a-beat and “know” I wanted to fuck him.  So I told him that I would like to sit in his car and kiss for a while and save the sex for another time.  He said that sounded great, so we agreed to leave the bar and go to his car.

Once inside, we made sure we were in a dark area of the parking lot and started with a nice soft, intense lip lock.  I melted.  He was such a great kisser.  We kissed for a really long time.  At one point, he held my face between his hands and just focused his lips on mine.  I ran my fingers through his soft, sexy curls and pulled them just a little bit.  I carefully teased my hand over his shorts where his cock was straining the fabric and zipper at his fly.  The longer I kissed him, the more I found myself thinking I should have allowed him to take me to a hotel.   I dropped my head into his lap and teased his hard cock with my face and lips through the fabric of his shorts.  He held his hands on the back of my head with just the right amount of pressure.  Nothing forceful at all.  It was as though his carefully placed hands were silently begging me not to stop.

After a bit, I laid down on the seat and allowed him to take the lead.  While I had my head in his lap, he had unhooked my bra, so my breasts were free and he carefully lifted my shirt to suck on my excited nipples.  Then he started playing with my clit through my jeans.  Once again, I was kicking myself for telling him we should save the sex for next time.  I wanted to have sex with this man really badly.  He made me cum inside my jeans and after a while, he unzipped my jeans to give his fingers better access.  He filled my pussy with his fingers and worked my clit until I exploded all over his fingers.  I pulled his hand out so that I could taste myself on him.  Not only did I lick his fingertips, but I took each finger into my mouth as deep as I could and I did some gentle biting with my teeth.  I am definitely a biter and may men don’t like it, but my new playmate looked at me and asked me, “Why do I like biting so much?”  That clinched it for me.  I may have met a boyfriend who won’t complain when I inadvertently express my orgasmic pleasure with my teeth.

Very fun.  I left the parking lot with a smile on my face, smelling my pheromones wafting through the air as I drove home.  I haven’t yet chose a pseudonym for this potential boyfriend, but maybe by the next time I see him I will have something to call him.

I might be seeing the first Mr. Craigslist tomorrow night for a little late night fun/fuck.  Which means I should get to sleep since I do have to work a full day tomorrow.

I only have a few minutes to blog before I go to work.  I wish I worked at a place where I could secretly look at porn, blog, and instant message, but that is never going to happen at my job.  For several reasons.  I do maintain some minor texting and that can get me hot and make me smile in the middle of the day.  :)  Just have to remember to not leave my phone lying around.

So more news on the Craigslist front.   I met another guy and this time I went by myself.  I posted an ad looking for a boyfriend (or 2) and got several responses.  One guy in particular looked cute and sexy, not in the naughty hot boy way, but in a sort of smart, normal, fun way.  We went out for a drink at a place with an outdoor patio.  The weather was just fucking gorgeous.  A perfect summer evening!  We had a couple glasses of wine and just talked about all sorts of topics sexual and non sexual.  He had asked me in our emails if there might be an opportunity to get a room if we “clicked” and at one point he told me that he thought this meeting was going particularly well.  Then twice he asked me how I was feeling.  Which was basically his nice way of asking me if we were going to have sex.  At least, that’s how I took it.

What was my answer??
Well…..I will post the details of what happened after he paid our bill either tonight or tomorrow.

So we pulled into his driveway and looked at each other.    I changed into my lower cut top, the one I didn’t want the kids to see me leaving the house in.  We walked up and my potential new playmate answered the door.  He invited us in and introduced himself.  I gave him a little kiss.  Definitely cute, just like the pic he had sent us when he answered our Craigslist ad.  There was soft lighting and he had has tv on.   We each something to drink - nonalcoholic for all of us and sat down in the livingroom to talk.  He and I on the couch and my husband on a chair.  He muted the television, which is a very good thing in my book.  I can’t tell you how much I HATE having a tv on for background noise when I’m trying to talk or have sex.  No fun at all!

The three of us talked about sex, craigslist,and lifestyle.  It was fine, nothing too interesting.  It was after 10pm on a work night when we got there, so we knew there wasn’t a lot of time for “deciding”.   He was clean, nice, respectable, and good looking.  He made a comment about making it to the bedroom and then corrected himself by saying “if” we make it to the bedroom.   At one point he left the room briefly and I touched base with my husband to make sure he was good with something going down.  When he came back to the living room, we talked a little more and then I got things going.

I invited my husband to come sit on the couch where I had been sitting.  There was some confusion about what exactly I was asking, by both men.  But once they were sitting on either side of the couch, I straddled my new guy and started kissing him.  Very nice.  Very yummy.  Very soft.   We pressed our bodies together and he caressed my tits.  We figured out how to get my bra off and he kept kissing me and getting me extremely turned on.  I buried my face in his crotch and teased his cock through his shorts.  Letting my hot breath penetrate the fabric.   After a while I came up and whispered in his ear asking him to invite me to his bedroom.

The three of us walked in.  He had a nice, clean bed and there were candles and music already playing.  Some might thing that is presumptuous, but I found it very nice to not have to stop what we were doing for him to have to “get the room ready”.  Once in the room, we both took our clothes off and climbed on the bed.  My husband sat near the bed to watch.  Much of our time was spent with him pleasing me orally.  He pulled me to the edge of his bed and kneeled on the floor to bury his face in my pussy.  He was very skilled and very ready to spend plenty of time licking, tasting, and arousing me.  I started to get nervous that I was going to gush all over his face and didn’t know if I should warn him or not.  I took my cues from him, because the closer I got, the more intense he became and the deeper he buried his mouth.   I had several orgasms with his face down there, not all gushing, maybe not any gushing, but several intensely satisfying orgasms.  Soon he was fucking me in that same position; me on my back with my pussy at the edge of the bed and him standing there feeding his hard dick into my pussy.  He was very attentive and made sure his hard on would last by alternating between fucking me and eating me.  My husband came over during this time and I sucked his cock while he touched and caressed my torso.  After quite a while of fully enjoying this, I invited my new playmate onto the bed and asked him to lay on his back so I could be the one giving attention.  I climbed on top of his cock and started riding him and kissing him.  Then I did a little of the rocking motion I’ve recently learned and was able to let loose with a nice warm gush all over his cock and balls.  He REALLY liked that and a few minutes later said something like “cum all over my dick.”   Well how can a girl say no to that?

Next I moved myself down and carefully removed his condom so I could suck and stroke his cock.  It was intensly wonderful.  Not rock hard, but not exactly soft either.  It tasted salty and I couldnt tell if he had come in the condom or if it was his precum I was tasting.   I enjoyed the relative quiet stillness of sucking his cock and allowing my glow to radiate throughout my body.  Unfortunately all good things must come to an end.  It was about 11:45 and both my husband and I had to work in the morning, so we said our good nights and thank yous.   My new playmate and my husband shook each other’s hands and I gave him a good night kiss.

The ride home was spent with me saying at least 10 times, “He was fun!”  We are all 3 looking forward to next time!

We’ve recently been experimenting with using Craigslist to meet playmates.  I find it really tedious and not very successful at all.   I don’t want to post our photos on Craigslist, and I don’t want to meet people whose photo I haven’t seen.  So Craigslist often becomes a game of chicken; who is going to be first to “give” a photo.  It can be really annoying and it seems to take forever to find someone you might be interested in.

Also, it can be pretty awkward to be connecting with someone via email and then find yourself not at all wanting to hook up once you’ve seen the photo.   How do you tactfully tell someone, “Well now that I’ve seen your photo, I’m not so interested anymore.”   A while ago we had this great email from a couple inviting us to come hang out in their hot tub for a few drinks.  It all seemed like a great way to spend an evening, but once we got the photo, we realized they were quite a bit older than us and that we weren’t interested.

In any case, on Sunday I was looking around Craigslist looking for some fun and interesting ads.  Mr SS has been really wanting to watch me with another guy lately, so we’ve kind of been trying to figure that out.   After a couple (or few) hours of browsing and getting annoyed by Craigslist.  I impulsively posted the following at about 8:40pm:

My husband wants to watch me be pleasured tonight! And soon………

We want to be out the door by 9pm.

Here’s the criteria:
You are over 30
You know how to please a woman orally and sexually
You can host
You send a face pic in your email response
You will wear a condom

Bonus:
You have a hot tub
You live or have a hotel room in Eagan, AppleValley, Burnsville, West Bloomington

Respond soon, please!

I got a few responses and was ruthless about deleting those that didn’t include photos or photos that I found unattractive.  One guy sent an email with a face photo and a torso photo.  I thought he was cute and my hubby thought he seemed “ok”.   After a couple emails back and forth, hubby and I decided to drive to his place and see what would happen.

Please tune in tomorrow for the story of our encounter!  (Not because I’m trying to lure you back, but because I’m tired and want to perv a few swinger sites before I go to sleep.)

Real life has been incredibly busy for SuburbanSwingers! Mrs finished up a hugely time-intesive project at the beginning of May and started a new full-time job at the end of May.

I’ve had some time to play, but Mr has been having a few dates of his own.  I really enjoy thinking about my husband enjoying and expoiting his sexuality with women who turn him on.  He finally played with a woman who I think is incredibly luscious.  She is curvy, with creamy white skin, and strawberry blonde hair.  I have been fantasizing about them playing for quite a while now.

More to come later.  I need to clean house and do some other stuff before coming back online.

I am feeling so ultra horny lately.  Monday night I dragged my husband out on a sexual shopping spree.  We first went to The Fantasy House, but their stuff is generally overpriced, so we didn’t buy anything and went to Target instead.  The main purpose of my trip was buying some lube since I had just used up my small bottle.  Hubby had heard good things about Astroglide, so we got a small bottle of that and I also bought some KY Natural Feeling Liquid lube.  I bought a pack of AA batteries for my white butterfly vibrator, which I haven’t  used much since I got my Hitachi Magic Wand, but that I am thinking I would like to take out of hibernation.  (Or what do you call it when a butterfly is in its cocoon??)  After I made my purchases, hubby started filling up with some stuff for himself!  A box of 36 Trojan ultra thin condoms and a Trojan vibrating cock ring!  After all those purchases I had to organize our toy bag and made hubby his own little travel bag with all his little “surprises.”

Right now I am watching Dirty Dancing on cable.  That movie has a way of sparking my sexuality and making me horny.  I’m sure any women reading who came of age in the mid-80s can relate.  The movie was so popular and I remember it being rented for every slumber party I attended for at least a couple of years.  We were all so infatuated with the story and watching Jennifer Grey’s character have her sexuality awakened by her older lover.  It still has the same effect on me today.  I’m not sure if it’s simply an effect of recalling the feelings it gave me in the late 80s or if it is still relevant to my experience today?   Right now it’s at the “She’s Like the Wind” part and I can feel my pussy aching for some intensely emotionally charged sex.   Cause it really was just about the sex for Baby and Johnny, wasn’t it??  I mean it’s not like we think they got married after the movie, do we?

Okay almost to the part where “nobody puts Baby in the corner”, so I gotta run!

To follow up my last post, the day after I had that little text message exchange with my hubby, a new friend asked if I might be able to slip away for some playtime on Saturday.  Although I had an extremely busy weekend with the kids and running them to all their activities, I did have a few hours in the afternoon free.  I double checked with my hubby and let my new friend know that I could meet him at about 3:30.   He asked me to suggest someplace that was close to me, so I gave him the name of a motel about 5 miles from home that hubby has used with a friend.  It’s clean, convenient, and cheap!  Perfect for lifestyle trysts.

The anticipation with this particular playmate was pretty intense.  We’ve actually been out a couple times with some very nice “making out”, but we hadn’t actually had sex yet.  I know I was excited to finally find out exactly how much fun we could have together.

I got home from my son’s hockey game about 2:30 and hopped in the shower to get ready for my date.  I had allowed myself almost a full hour to get ready.  I took my time shaving and moisturizing, doing my hair and makeup, and slipping into something clean and casual.  Prior to getting dressed, I got a text from my date saying that he wasn’t going to make it after all.   I texted him and immediately got a phone call back from him letting me know that he had made some arrangements and we were still on for 3:30.  I gave him the name and location of the hotel and told him to call when he was close.

Once he arrived, he checked in and texted me the room number.  He met me in the hallway and walked me to the room.  I really enjoyed the fact that we had met a few times prior because I wasn’t at all nervous or uncomfortable.  I lit some candles that I had brought along; I HATE having sex with all the lights on!! We kissed for a bit and started messing around on top of the bedspread.  I quickly stopped to get us onto the nice clean sheets and we joked about me being germ-o-phobic.  But everyone knows they don’t wash those hotel spreads and people have sex on them all the time.  GROSS!  I jokingly said that the bedspread was probably stained with my husband’s cum from his own visit(s) to the place.  Once I brought that up, my playmate was more agreeable to my suggestion of getting us in the sheets.  LOL

So I really need to get better about blogging these experiences right after they happen so I can really remember how the sex actually progressed.  We kissed and rubbed our bodies together and he, of course, went down on me, since I had expressed earlier my affinity for that particular sex act.  He did a very nice job of arousing me, although I’m not sure if he is one of those men who LOVE to eat pussy.  I remember at one time saying to him something like “just a little bit longer, please baby” while gently guiding his head back down to my sweet throbbing pussy.  I also enjoyed wrapping my lips around his thick, hard cock.  Some men have a slight curve to their penis, but this guy’s is very straight, thick, and symmetrical.   I’m not a girl who can give hard, fast blow jobs.  Instead I prefer to gently arouse with my tongue and lips making the cock ache and throb in anticipation of more.  I like to engulf the cock in my mouth, while barely touching my lips to the shaft, enticing it to grow so that it can feel my lips.  I like to slowly take more and more of it into my throat until I gag slightly; I can’t quite deep throat, but I will try!  I did all of this to his gorgeous cock and then asked him if he was ready to fuck me.

He put on the condom and kept the hard on.  Hooray!   We fucked doggy style for quite a while and then tried some other positions as well.   He had two techniques that he used while fucking me.  Once was nice, the other not exactly my cup of tea.   Many guys try the kind of fucking where they thrust into me with one quick, hard thrust.  I’ve not yet found someone who can do that in a way that I enjoy.  The other thing he tried was awesome.  He fucked me slow and steady, but pulling out enough with each thrust that the head of his cock had to “pop” back into me each time.  Not quite all the way out, but enough that I could feel the ridge of his head at the opening to my vagina.  It was really, really nice and kind of new.

During our encounter, I would hear his breathing and pace start to quicken.  I remember one time begging him not to cum yet.  He assured me that he promised not to cum until I asked him to.  He followed through on that promise too.  Mmmmmmmmm!!  I like that!  We had a wonderful time and then chatted for a bit in bed about his parties and some mutual acquaintances.  Then I had to leave and get back to the kids.

That evening at my son’s second hockey game, some of the parents said that they had stayed between the games and gone out to lunch.  I slyly smiled thinking about what they would think if they knew I how I spent those same hours.   I spent the rest of the afternoon in a very good mood and excited to tell my husband all about my naughty play time.   I wanted to fuck again within a few hours.  I really think my ideal playdate would consist of sex, followed by going out for a meal, a movie, or some other kind of “vanilla” date, and then returning for another round of sex.  Doesn’t that sound like fun?!

So I didn’t give this playdate a blog-name yet.  Trying to think of something that describes him, but isn’t too close to his actual handle on Lifestyle Lounge. For now, he shall remain unnamed. In fact, I’m not sure I am liking the handle-idea for the purposes of this blog anyway.

My husband is out of town for the holiday weekend and I didn’t feel like doing any of the NYE parties alone. We had a little text exchange yesterday on his drive out of town that cracked me up:

HIM: Happy new year babes!  Hope you are having a great day.. and thanks again for being so cool with me going this weekend.. Just let me know how to make it up to you ; )

ME: Sex with black men and bi-sexual men**

HIM: What about straight white guys?**

ME: Yes those too.

HIM: Hmmmm.. well you drive a hard bargain.. Ok.. I can do that. ; )

That little exchange made me smile.  I mean isn’t compromise the most important thing for a successful, happy marriage?

Notes:
** I will have to create a post describing my fantasies involving bi-sexual men.
** My husband is both straight and white.

So I was on this Craigslist kick a while ago trying to meet some couples for hubby and I to play with and trying to find some men for me to have solo dates with or for threesomes with my hubby.  It really was not too successful at all.  Craigslist is just so different from any of the swinger sites.  You have to do so much work to get to know folks on CL, emails back and forth, cajoling them to send pics, etc.  On a swinger site, you can browse ads all day long and the profiles can be pretty detailed which means you can get a good feel for someone’s personality BEFORE you invest a bunch of time emailing or talking with them.

Craigslist is good, however, for the random hook up type thing.  One guy on there happened to catch me on a good day a while back.  This was before I got my new job, so I was home a lot during the day.  So on this particular day, the CLPhoneSex guy suggests that we have some phone sex.  I was horny, so I figured, “why not”.  I got naked, plugged in my Hitachi Magic Wand, blocked my number and gave him a call.

He was really great at phone sex!  I masturbated while he aurally aroused me with his naughty, naughty stories.  He got me VERY turned on talking about sucking other guys’ cocks and all sorts of other nasty stuff.  It was really fucking HOT!  I had a few really great orgasms with him.  When the phone call was over, he said that he couldn’t wait to meet me.   Myself, on the other hand, was feeling pretty satisfied with how things went and felt no desire whatsoever to take things to the next level.

Basically it was a one time thing as far as I was concerned.  He has since sent me a couple emails and some yahoo messages wondering when we might talk again and I’ve basically just ignored him.  I can’t decide if that makes me rude or not?  I basically just used the guy for my own orgasmic needs with no real desire to actually meet him.  Is that wrong?  Am I just someone else’s Mr TallBaldnHandsome??

Hello out there!  Life has been so ultimately crazy lately.  I hope you all didn’t think that the disappointing sex in my last blog turned me off from the lifestyle for good.  Couldn’t be more wrong.  I’ve had some really fun times since then.  We went to another large hotel party last weekend and I had so much fun, flirting and kissing and meeting new friends.  Had a wonderful date last night with a guy.  We don’t know him very well, so I made it pretty clear that I really wanted to have time to get to know him and that sex would not likely be on the table.  We hit it off pretty well and spent a lot of time getting to know each other over some drinks.  Then we went to a seedy little strip bar and spent a bunch more time getting to know each other.  He picked the place.  He said that he takes dates there as a test to see how they react.  He liked my reaction cause I told him how much I love those kind of places.

Anyway……new full time job has been keeping me busy which is why I haven’t had much time to blog lately.  Have a bunch of stuff happening through this week and then I will be able to breathe a bit.  So bear with me, by the first Monday in December, life will be MUCH less stressful!